When we talk about violence, we usually think of hitting or shouting. But other, more silent forms of abuse also leave a mark: contempt, manipulation, isolation, extreme jealousy, constant control, or emotional blackmail. This is known as emotional violence, and it can be just as or even more harmful than physical violence.

In Connecticut, according to data from the Connecticut Coalition Against Domestic Violence (CCADV), 1 in 3 women and 1 in 4 men have experienced some type of intimate violence in their lifetime. Many times, these situations are hidden, minimized, or normalized—especially in environments where machismo, economic dependency, or fear of deportation make it difficult to ask for help.

The emotional consequences are profound: anxiety, depression, loss of self-esteem, sleep disorders, social isolation, or self-destructive thoughts. In addition, victims may take years to recognize that they are in a harmful relationship.

From a mental health perspective, it is essential to identify the signs of a toxic relationship and to promote safe spaces for conversation. It’s not about judging but about accompanying and guiding. People must understand they are not alone and that resources are available to help them leave these situations.

Signs and Symptoms of Emotional Violence
Emotional violence can manifest in various ways, and it is important to be alert to the signs and symptoms that may indicate someone is being victimized by this kind of abuse. Some of the most common signs and symptoms include:
• Contempt and humiliation
• Manipulation
• Isolation
• Extreme jealousy
• Constant control
• Emotional blackmail

It is important to remember that asking for help is not a sign of weakness but of courage. Recognizing that support is needed is the first step toward recovery and the building of a life free from violence.

There are helplines, confidential support centers, and trained professionals throughout the state. No one should go through pain alone. These resources are designed to provide a safe and supportive environment in which victims can speak openly about their experiences and receive the guidance and assistance they need.

Moreover, society as a whole must become aware of the seriousness of emotional violence. Education and awareness are powerful tools for preventing and combating this kind of abuse. Awareness campaigns, educational programs, and community initiatives can play a vital role in creating a culture of respect and mutual support.

Ultimately, the fight against emotional violence requires a collective effort. We all have a role to play in creating a world where love is synonymous with respect, support, and care. By joining together in this cause, we can help ensure that no one has to suffer in silence and that everyone has the opportunity to live a whole and healthy life.

Source: Connecticut Coalition Against Domestic Violence (CCADV), 2023.

Milton Capón Bermeo is a clinical psychologist with 18 years of experience in Ecuador in the areas of clinical care, public health, and social policy, a student of the Danbury PLTI Class of 2024, and now a parent community leader working to implement a community mental health project for migrants.