Life for migrant families in Connecticut is marked by the constant pursuit of a better future. Many times, that effort translates into long work hours, multiple jobs, or overnight shifts that, while helping cover basic needs, leave children with little parental presence. This reality, so common in our community, brings with it significant challenges for the mental health of all members in the household.

When parents are physically or emotionally absent, children and adolescents may feel lonely, insecure, or confused. In Connecticut, following the pandemic, cases of childhood anxiety and depression have increased notably. The Connecticut Institute for Health and Development (CHDI) notes that parental stress and the lack of emotional bonds have become key risk factors for children’s emotional well-being.

It is easy to think that changes in behavior are simply age-related “rebellion,” but behind a child who shouts, withdraws, experiences declining academic performance, or has constant tantrums, there may be sadness, fear, or a call for attention. Detecting these signs early is essential to prevent problems from deepening.

This is not about being perfect parents, but about being present parents. Children’s mental health is built every day through routines, words, gestures of affection, and attention. Even when time together is limited, what matters most is its quality: a family meal without distractions, a conversation before bedtime, or sincerely asking how they feel. These small moments can make a big difference. Below are some recommendations to improve the relationship between parents and children:

• Establish routines: Children need consistency to feel secure. A schedule for meals, rest, and study helps create stability.
  • Listen without judgment: Allow your children to express what they feel, even if at times you do not understand or share their emotions.
  • Participate in activities together: Play games, go for walks. There is no need to spend money; what matters is sharing and connecting.
  • Limit screen use: Encourage face-to-face interaction instead of letting devices fill the void of parental absence.
  • Acknowledge your own limits: If you feel you cannot handle everything, seek help.

The community has valuable resources: churches, community centers, and parent support groups. Turning to these spaces can offer guidance, support, and tools to face daily challenges.

Caring for children’s emotional health today is an invaluable investment, as it lays the foundation for raising strong and resilient adults, preparing them to face life’s challenges with greater security and confidence. The presence, affection, and support of family are essential elements that not only prevent the development of emotional problems but also directly contribute to building happier homes and healthier communities.

Milton Capón Bermeo is a clinical psychologist with 18 years of experience in Ecuador in the areas of clinical care, public health, and social policy, a student of the Danbury PLTI Class of 2024, and Co-Founder of the ABYA YALA Migrant Community. To reach him, call (203) 809-0603.