When survivors come forward with their stories, the importance of validating their experiences cannot be overstated. This belief is vital for several reasons: it aids in the healing process for survivors, encourages others to come forward, helps to hold perpetrators and abusers accountable, and works to dismantle the societal stigma surrounding these issues.

Survivors of interpersonal violence are commonly scrutinized for coming forward, claiming that they are seeking attention or revenge. This rhetoric is harmful and statistically inaccurate – multiple studies conducted by the FBI and National Sexual Violence Resource Center state that only up to 10 percent of reports of sexual violence are classified as “false reports,” which include instances in which the victim recanted (often due to retaliation or threats) or reports that are unfounded due to a lack of evidence. This is the same percentage of false reports as other violent crimes, including robbery and murder.

Domestic and sexual violence are severely underreported crimes, and one of the biggest reasons for this is the fear of not being believed or taken seriously. Other barriers to reporting include shame and stigma, lack of resources or education about the fact that what happened was a crime, legal or other institutional obstacles, fear of retaliation, and the real and valid fear of being re-traumatized through the reporting process by having to share intimate details of their trauma over and over. Reporting domestic or sexual violence is time-consuming, financially burdensome, and emotionally taxing.

Most people are not violent, but when our society and culture care more about discrediting and silencing victims, the repeat offenders are left to victimize more people. By creating an environment that validates survivors’ experiences, we encourage reporting and help break down the barriers that prevent many from coming forward. It is imperative for communities to stand united in support of survivors, fostering a culture in which they feel safe, heard, and believed. Only through collective action can we hope to create lasting change and ensure that no survivor feels alone in their journey toward healing.

At The Center for Empowerment and Education, we believe you and are here to support you.

If you or someone you know needs support, our no-cost confidential hotlines are available 24/7.

Domestic Violence Hotline (203)731-5206

Sexual Assault Hotline (203)731-5204